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About author Joe Holmes

I am just a normal person who has had a certain set of difficult circumstances that have forced me to learn. Learn to not only overcome them but how to forgive. This as anyone who has had trauma or grief in life know learning to forgive is no easy task. Yet it is the whole substance to success and health. Without it one attracts darkness and pushes light away.

Recognizing light vs. darkness and how to increase light is the basic premise of my evolution to understanding success and health.

I have had a life of many obstacles from an abused child to numerous betrayals as an adult by my parents and others, a financial loss of all I owned, then debilitating health problems for fifty years.

It is because of my experiences that has let me see a different side of the coin as to parenting, success and health.

My book "How to Raise Successful Children" contains the ten steps I learned to avoid becoming an abusive parent. Because of these ten steps and marrying a wonderful wife we have been privileged to raise six successful children. We lost our youngest daughter in 2002 at the age of eighteen in an auto accident. She was a Senator of her Senior Class in High School. Then five years later we lost our middle son to a diabetic coma at age thirty three. He was a successful customer service representative at the time of his death. Both times we suffered intense grief but it brought our family closer not only to each other but to God. See their web memorials

As a young man I had high goals to become a millionaire and studied every success book I could find. I applied the positive mental attitudes in the success books and invested in nothing down real estate. After losing all I owned I began to take a new look at the meaning and definitions of success and positive thinking. For ten years I was mad at God and could not understand why it happened to me. Eventually I began to recognize why the oft quoted saying in success literature, "The hidden secrets of success" was used. I had often wondered why could one person rise to success almost over night and hundreds of others fail. I learned that between the lines in success philosophies is a very dangerous concept of success that motivates people to believe their mind is greater than God. I began to write my findings which are not popular but if they help just one person it will be worth the effort.

My father was a residential brick mason in Boise, Idaho and at the age of sixteen I was a accomplished brick mason. After coming home from the Army I joined with a brother-in-law and learned the carpenter trade. In the next several years I worked for other masonry and carpentry contractors as well as contracting work myself. I returned to college and supported my small family by working as a brick mason. As I began my third year I began to suffer severe depression and had to leave school, a decision I have often regretted but could not change.

When my father died I returned to the Boise Valley to help my mother and suffered several terrible betrayals by her that caused me greater anxiety than all of my childhood. It was at this time I began working as a building inspector. I became the head plans examiner for the State of Idaho and began to invest in real estate. After I lost everything in real estate we moved to Ogden, Utah where I was employed by Ogden City as the Assistant Manager of Ogden City Inspection Department. After three years I was treated by a psychiatrist who diagnosed me as manic depressive giving me Lithium to the point of making me a zombie. This contributed to being fired and I began a new career in commercial construction. I began as a quality control inspector then a superintendent and on to a construction manager. I built a multimillion dollar state of the art milk processing plant managing hundreds of contractors and workers. Next I managed a branch construction office as a commercial design build salesman and construction manager building several large commercial projects in Salt Lake City area. Eventually I started my own construction company and had twelve employees.

In 1995 I got an infected wood sliver and was prescribed an antibiotic. Although I have over the preceding years received numerous antibiotics this time it completely shut down my system. I began to sleep up to twenty hours a day and had to close my construction company. For the next fourteen years I was unable to work and my doctor told me it was because I wanted to be sick and that I was a hypochondriac.

This motivated me to begin to study my health issues. Also at this time I wrote my first book about construction management. I taught myself how to write and to build web pages. I tried unsuccessfully to sell my construction book on the internet. Eventually I changed direction and began to publish my health research on the internet.

I began my health research with a critical view of doctors who have branded me a hypochondriac for fifty years instead of looking for the real causes of my health problems. Eventually I discovered I have Celiac Disease and shortly after going on a gluten free diet my mental and physical health improved dramatically. Further research and tests revealed I have the symptoms of Lyme disease, Candida and Type II Diabetes. As I have researched health I have found many health researchers who report a disease called Metabolic Stress and how it causes most diseases such as diabetes and others. My health research now focuses on the ways to reverse Metabolic Stress.

One of the lessons in life is to accept what we cannot change and make the best of what we have. At many times thorough my experiences I had a lot of anger and each time learned to be proactive. You would think that each time one experiences a trial and learns how to forgive and make the best of it that it would apply to the next trial. Maybe some can. but I have discovered each trial is different and each requires super human effort to go on. This super human effort can be easier when one trusts God instead of murmuring.

Each trial brings a little more wisdom and understanding. As I look back I recognize if I had not had the last fourteen years of chronic fatigue I would never have researched, written and built my web sites. I could not have done it if I had a steady job. The saying, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade" has become an important concept in my life.

I would love to have had the information I have collected near the sunrise of my life instead of near its sunset. This is one of the reasons I am giving away all my research for free with the desire that someone may benefit from it.